How to Deal with the Loss of a Child: My Story

People often tell me that I've truly "been through the fire" and it's true. I have. I've experienced more emotional, financial and physical hardships in several years than most people have their entire LIFE. But above all, I found the loss of a child to be the most difficult to overcome. Continue Reading...

Losing Trust in a Relationship

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 TRUST IS SO NECESSARY FOR HAPPINESS IN RELATIONSHIPS I think one of the most important pieces in a relationship is trust.  Trust is an unspoken promise that once broken, is rarely ever regained.  The loss of trust is most certainly a topic that I can blog about because the wound feels very similar to an emotional loss or a dramatic change event in life.  The loss of trust cuts very deeply and often takes a while before it heals over. Breaking trust is a form of betrayal and often will seep into your life without warning or recognition. It happens so quickly and swiftly that it happens, and then like an aftershock, leaves you in a state of disbelief and torment.  For what you thought and believed in, can no longer be believed.  Once it is gone, most certainly the dynamics of … [Read more...]

Identity Theft

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It can happen to anyone where someone out there is dastardly and evil enough to steal your identity and take away your life as you know it through vaporizing your identity for themselves.  I guess it is happening everywhere to a lot of good hard working people.  I have run into some small forms of it personally where your identity "is compromised" and your heart beats about 1000 beats per minute while you scramble to make sure they haven't taken any of the money you have in any of your accounts.    To those who have been through it great job and to those who are protecting yourself from the possibility of it happening, hang in there and play it smart. The reason I titled this article about losing yourself during a crisis to identity theft is because I've interviewed enough people … [Read more...]

Big Changes? Job, Money, Love Loss?

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Just floating and cruising through life... just like the little boy in the pool.  Just hanging and enjoying life should be the goal but life has our way with us all and can throw some monkey wrenches into the mix that can last for hours, days or months.  Don't let what happens in life alter who you can be, just let it alter your "to do" list. It doesn't take a big change in life to stump you up.  It can be as simple as spraining your ankle to throw you a curve in your daily routine.  But for some, big changes can throw them off for some time.  A big change in life could be financial, employment or relationship change that alters your bottom line or heart significantly.  When it happens, it feels like the rug is pulled out from under you and all that is left is a broken spirit … [Read more...]

Saying Yes to Productive Thinking

Have you ever wondered what makes a good day good and what makes a bad day well, bad?  I have and I can tell you without a doubt, "the tone" begins the minute you open your eyes  and the first thought that crosses your mind will most likely set the tone for the day.    There is a thought that crosses your mind immediately upon opening your eyes.  It could be anything from, man it is still dark out, or wow, I slept that late?  For others, the thought might consist of the health theme.  When you move and your body aches you might start to think things that are physically bothering you and you might obsess about your health.  Or you feel your body jiggle when you move and you hate the way your body feels because you've gained that extra weight and now you don't like yourself heavier … [Read more...]

Master of your Destiny

Take Just One Step!

Take Just One Step!    Master of your Destiny So many times we wonder through our day pondering on whether we are in the right place, working at the right job, and maybe even with the right person.  Basically questioning our entire existence can be an everyday occurrence for some people.  I think we do this because we have either neglected to listen to our subconscious as it was guiding us through life or we have not decided to make that one change that could ultimately end up being the one thing needed to make life great!  Either way, if you have neglected to listen or if you are unable to change at this particular moment in time, thought is the most productive form of work. Psychologists agree that most people are planning for months on end in their subconscious … [Read more...]

Personal Life Coach: Making Sense During a Difficult Time During Grieving

Grief, loss and bereavement coaching sessions are unique, moldable and inspiring. As your personal life coach,  you'll receive a series of one on one sessions designed around YOU TALKING with no interruptions, that has two active listeners and participants, all the while one of the participants is a seasoned, sought after, life experienced certified and in demand life coach “all ears” and “high attention alert” to talk about whatever it is happening in your life right now that is affecting you from being a fully functioning human being.  We all face hurdles, obstacles, fears, and “endings” which in my humble opinion keep us from fully being alive and in the moment. It is a simple thing; you need someone to talk to that is going to keep your inner most thoughts and fears … [Read more...]

Managing Grief: Understand the Difference Between Mourning and Grief

Before you begin thinking about managing grief or helping a loved one manage their grief, it may help to understand the difference between mourning and grief. The stages of grief and loss are also a great place to begin understanding how grieving affects you and your loved ones around you. There are a ton of angles, philosophies, definitions and “thoughts” concerning morning and grief.  It will help to read one of the banks of thought regarding mourning and Grief and then you can go ahead and enjoy mine. Mourning (From Wikipedia) Not to be confused with Morning. Mourning is, in the simplest sense, synonymous with grief over the death of someone. The word is also used to describe a cultural complex of behaviors in which the bereaved participate or are expected to … [Read more...]

Auntie Em and the Sequence of Life

What a spirited woman she is!  She was my mom’s older sister, next in the line of her siblings – so I would say they did the most together of all the kids in their family.  I was her godchild.  Auntie Em was very aware of all the people around her, ready with a kind word or with 25 words.  A smile on her face for anyone who would share their time with her and ready for almost anything, a breakfast together or just sip coffee.  I remember her as a working woman in the factory, a wife, a mom and a sister, aunt and friend.    From what I could gather and the few people I’ve met that worked with her, just loved having her around.  She had some really great kids and grandkids.  Her husband Hank was a sweet dude as well.  I know after losing him, she may have lost a little bit … [Read more...]

When the Fog has Lifted

SO Much Good and Fun Awaits!

   Look for the Color In Life!   When you have been through the fire as some say I have and have come through it on the other side, there is a lot to be said for how one feels after the fog of grieving or depression has lifted.   I always say you  to those I am coaching  "you don't know how bad you were feeling, until you start feeling better.   The positive thoughts that we awake with in the morning, is a very good indication that your spirits are lifting and your psyche is getting it's arms around "moving forward'. The thoughts you begin your day with can ultimately determine how your day will go. It is hard however to begin each day with a flowing stream of positive thoughts when your hope has been shattered.  I am here to be a living testament  that the loss of … [Read more...]

Dealing with Grief and Loss

Loss, although most articles are conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, loss also has physical, cognitive, behavioral, social, and philosophical dimensions that can trip us up for quite some time.  Some people experience loss a lot more than others and some have it a lot earlier in life or more devastating.  I think loss comes at us without a lot of preparation because we don’t start out in life or each day thinking “I’m going to lose today”.  We just don’t.  We do not cognitively work that way thinking that we are going to lose something today.  It isn’t a normal condition, but maybe realizing early on in life that The Cinderella Complex is really is a “fairy tale” and the dream like story is best left to those who want to dip in and out of reality, … [Read more...]